We love our children..

We love our children..

Why I did this blog...

Peace. My name Charles L. Crouch. I am 70's baby who loves life, God, the arts, and positivism. At the ripe age of 35 I was blessed with a beautiful son by my wife. We named him Charles Jordan. It was at the moment I realized that all of the others things (besides God), are secondary. He is my everything. I have learned that everything I do affects him in some way, shape, or form.


Fatherhood is possibly the greatest task a man can approach. A great portion of the success of the children rests upon the shoulders of wisdom bestowed to them by their father. We are to provide, protect, love, and teach them. Our sons are a reflection of our strength. Our daughters are a reflection of our willingness to protect.


As black men, we get a bad rap for our ability to be consistent fathers. Hopefully this website will make an impact on that stereotype. Are there absentee fathers? Yes. Are we all that? Absolutely not.


We are strong. We are loving. We are protectors. We are the arms of love. We are the hands of discipline and correction when needed. We shape the paths for our children to walk in life.


WE ARE THERE. WE ARE BLACK FATHERS.

How to submit entries:

If you are a positive black father and would like to be featured on this blog, send a picture of you and your children. Please be sure to include your name, your children's names, and a brief write up about what fatherhood means to you. Send all submissions to: silentwar7@gmail.com.

Salute.

Father, poet, writer, musician, activist, lover of God, lover of life

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Black Men and The Rest of "Civilized" Society (Jordan Davis and Angry White Men)

I remember when I first moved to Raleigh in 2009. I was driving down New Bern Ave., fully insured, intact drivers license, seatbelt on, etc. I see the cop driving behind me and all of a sudden the blue lights come on. Instant anxiety kicked in. "What did I do? I wasn't speeding. I have no warrants. No record, etc." The officer gets out of the vehicle.  "Yes officer, how can I help you?" The cop proceeds to ask me for my license, registration, and proof of insurance, all of which I provide, being cautious not to make any sudden moves. He proceeds to tell me that my plates match the description of another model vehicle, in other words, I was driving a stolen car. He tells me he'll be right back. Even though I knew this was a mistake, my nerves were shot. Cops do what they want. I was a black male dealing with a white cop. After about 20 minutes of wasting my time the cop comes back. "Mr. Crouch it appears I made a mistake, I entered a wrong number while running your plates. I sincerely apologize sir. Enjoy the rest of your day." I pulled off and headed home. 

I guess that wasn't quite the ending you were expecting huh? That's my point. I was shocked. I was treated with respect by a cop. He didn't tell me to get out of the car. He didn't tell me to show him my hands. He didn't ask me was there any drugs or weapons in the vehicle. Nothing. This is a problem; indirectly.

As I said in my Trayvon Martin note...we as black men deal with a lot of pressure in society. We are threatening by racial default. Jordan Davis died because he was listening to his music loud, was perceived to be a threat by a white man, probably stood up for himself (as any man would do), and got fired on 10 times. No doubt Dunn was trying to murder every brother in that car... 2 bullets per person, with 2 left over, had he been accurate. Now isn't it ironic that Dunn claims that Davis threatened his life saying, "I am going to kill you?" Sound familiar? Now granted, unless Florida has some different type of "threatening" code, most brothers don't threaten somebody by proclaiming death on them off gate. 

In the grand scheme of things people, 9 out of 10 young brothers aint even THINKING ABOUT YOU. We want to proceed on through our day just like you do. This regardless if we are going to the store to buy Skittles, and tea, or playing our music loud at the gas station with some of our buddies. HOWEVER, we know that "you" don't know that. We know that you have an issue with the way we dress, our hoodie, our music, our slang, our style, OUR SKIN. This brings about a very strange dilemma. We are automatically almost always in defense mode because we know what you don't know (see the first sentence of this paragraph for reference).

We are living in a society where if you perceived to be a thug, you should be killed, ridded of in society. You are a roach in a clean world of decent human beings. You do not matter. You make life bad for the rest of us God fearing, American flag waving citizens. You are a thug...a gangsta who wears a hoodie, walks through neighborhoods WE ARE SURE YOU CANT AFFORD TO LIVE IN, and plays your music too loud, and I am sure you have a weapon because all thugs and gangsters carry weapons...shall I continue? You get the point. 

Here is my point. I hate to say this. But the war against young black males is getting very blatant and arrogant. Yes, black males kill each other are alarming rates, but we have to figure out why. Is it embedded into our DNA? No. 

A conspiracy "theory" may hold some valid points but it is still a theory. However, when there is evidence to back it up...it becomes more than a "theory." Martin and Davis...DEAD. No murder charges. This, my friends, is no longer a theory.

We have to figure out why; people. The black male seed is getting WIPED OUT. We have to figure out why. 

God bless us. And heal us.

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Steve Frazier

Steve Frazier: R&B/Soul Singer- Son: Amauri Walker- 5 months old

What fatherhood means to me: "Being a father to me means, commitment trust and responsibility. It's about being the best man you can be for your the lil guy watching. It's about never giving up."



ScholarMan

ScholarMan- Hip-Hop artist, producer, activist, Founder- Soganic Music Daughter, Kamryn, 9 years old

What fatherhood means to me: "Fatherhood to me means loving and guiding my child in a safe direction, teaching her the important things that she needs to know as she journeys into adulthood. Most importantly,  it means being there for her so that she knows the basics on how she should be treated and loved by a husband later in life."



Deshaun Love

Deshaun Love: 31, Teacher. Children: Donovan, 2 years old.

What fatherhood means to me: "Being a father means a lot to me.  Donovan is a ball of fire, he has energy for days and I love that about him. He has so much personality and its beautiful. Being a black father is very important to me. Its one thing to be a dad, but a father is something else. Being able to be there for my son means a lot. To provide safety and whatever else he needs makes me feel good. Not all black mean are in gang or absent from the home, and I thank God he allowed me to be one of those men to be an example to my son."



Ronald (RL) Lavender

Ronald Lavender, Spoken Word artist, performer, poet. Children- Ron'nae, 11, Me'Yah, 10, Faith and Joy, 3 (twins)

What fatherhood means to me: "Fatherhood means teaching, loving, affection & the excitement of seeing a total extension of you in a tiny little body. I know God exists when I see something so special that I helped to create."


Eric (Jon Blaq) Oliver

Eric Oliver- Hip-Hop artist, CEO- On Our Game Entertainment
Son: Elijah, 2 years old

What fatherhood means to me: "For me fatherhood is the chance to pass on my life experiences to my son. I look back and can remember at different times when things I was told when I was younger clicked and was invaluable to me as I got older. Being able to impart wisdom into him is a gift and although he may not always understand at first I know I'll be equipping him with invaluable resources he can grow from in the future."



Tony Johnson, Jr. (Jay R.)

Tony Johnson, Jr.- Musician- Children- Saniya (not pictured) 7 years old, TJ, 3 years old, One on the way!

What fatherhood means to me: " A father is a person who protects his children from harm and danger. A father is a provider. Being a father I know that just enough will not work raising my kids up. A father is a person who will go to battle and war for his children regardless of who or what. Most of all, a father is a person who is willing to seek and follow God when it comes to the things of God and his children."